Why Tris Matters: Representing Every Woman’s NO

Before you read my post, please go read this article. It’s short but man is it amazing. And it may help you understand my post.

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Tris being all badass

 

There’s no denying my love for Divergent, especially Tris. That is easily seen in my Allegiant review. But why? Yeah she’s freaking awesome. Badass? That too. I have had numerous debates about Tris and often find myself defending her and Divergent. But what is it about Tris that made me fall in love with her character? I have thought about it fleetingly. At random moments I’d find myself wondering what it is that I admire about Tris. But it wasn’t until I read The “Divergent” Rape Scene: Here’s Why It Matters: Rewriting the script on sexual assault — and giving power back to girls” that I truly understood why Tris matters so much to me and why so many young-girls should read these books.

At first I thought the article was going to be another report on how bad Divergent is or how much better The Hunger Games is. I was preparing myself to not flip out (which don’t deny you’ve haven’t done. I know at least one of you have). But then I saw title: “The “Divergent” Rape Scene: Here’s Why It Matters: Rewriting the script on sexual assault — and giving power back to girls”. I was intrigued, especially by that last line.

“Tris has one especially unique fear,” says the author, “and it’s an important one: fear of sexual assault.” The author continues to say that, “Every woman knows Tris’ terror, knows the horror of walking home late at night, clutching keys like knives between her fingers. Every woman lives with the looming fear that her refusal, her no, won’t be taken seriously.” We do live in fear. God, how do we not? The amount of times that woman have to deal with lingering looks, with men saying derogatory things towards us. It’s scary. As I continued to read I started realizing why I loved Tris so much. She makes a stand and says that her body is HER body and not anyone else’s. Even when it comes to Jeanine and her family. Tris chooses to do what she wants.

Not only is Divergent important for girls, but for boys too. Teenage girls all around the world are going to witness Tris insisting on consent, and teenage boys are going to witness Four listening to her,” says the author. Boys will see that they should respect a girls no. To listen to any female that says they feel uncomfortable because it is always the right thing to do. 

When I first read Divergent at 16, I just knew that I loved Tris. I said it was because she was a badass. Was my escape from everything shitty around me. Two years and one article later, I finally get it. Tris was the first character I read that voiced her no. I only read one other book where a female protagonist fought another man because he made a crude move toward her: Angelfall by Susann Ee. Two years later and only one other book showed a girl fighting for her voice and body. I want other girls to read these books. Damn it, I don’t even care if they just watch Divergent. They need to see that we are always in control of our bodies. They need someone like Tris to look up to. Tris who is a strong, stubborn, and fierce. Not some celebrity who goes out all the time and does God knows what.

I have read numerous of stories with badass girls as main characters and I’m not going to deny that. Maybe there are movies and books that had the same thing that Divergent had. Tris though… Tris is different. She represents strength. Hope. That we girls can fight. We can fight for our NO to be heard. We can defend ourselves. Tris is the one character that will always remain my favorite, even more so now. I’ll leave you with these parting lines from the article, something I wish everyone took from Divergent:

“Divergent marks the first time I have ever seen a teenage girl articulate, in no uncertain terms, that her body belongs to her. That she gets to decide who touches it, and how, and when. That her yes and her no are final, and unambiguous, and worthy of respect. 

Divergent is important.”

  ~ Lauren

Allegiant: Why I Disliked it

I’ve tried to do this review a million times. I sat down and recorded it… which ended with me crying. I’ve always been better with words, better at expressing my emotions through sentences. Instead of making a review I’m simply going to write about something that happened in this book. If you have not read these books, or Allegiant, then DO NOT READ ON. I mean it. Because you know

We have read Allegiant and know what happens at the end. That very, very, very depressing holy-mother-this-is-not-real-but-it-is ending. Tris, the main character and the voice of this series, dies. Why? I have no idea. This- this plot twist angered me. Tris is was a character that had a tremendous impact on my life. When I first read Divergent I had a lot of things going on in my life. Divergent allowed me to escape from it all. For a good month that was all read, spoke, and breathed about. I was actually banned from ever mentioning it because people got annoyed. Like that would even stop me.

                            Divergent, Tris really, became this hero to me. Often I found myself saying, “What Would Tris Do?” She had this strength that I wanted. I found myself trying to be tough and strong and just to have courage. I took a piece of Tris into myself, which readers often do with characters they are fond of. When she died a piece of myself died with her. I was hysterically crying and really, it wasn’t a pretty sight. 

          My sister told me something when I finished Allegiant, “There won’t always be a happy ending.” But I like happy endings. We live in a shitty world full of war, heartbreak, and death. It could books or a movie, maybe even a game, that helps you escape from it all. Books, for me at least, give me this hope that good things do happen. Which is why what my sister said angered me. I don’t want to face reality sometimes. I needed a happy ending in Divergent damn it. I needed Tris to live, to marry Four and live. I thought, “If Tris can survive every shitty thing that happens to her then so can I.” Reading her death was like watching all of those hopes and dreams vanish. I know how dramatic this all sounds, but we all have a series or a book that saved us. Allegiant felt like one giant slap in the face.

         Yeah, Tris died a noble death, she sacrificed herself for the greater good and blah blah blah. I get that VR wanted to kill her from the start. She had it planned out, but I felt like she was so stuck on this one ending that she did everything in her damn power to make it happen. Four, at least the one I loved, never would have left her. He was have stayed with her. All of that Evelyn bullshit and the whole, “Choose me or not,” annoyed the crap out of me. Not only that, but she lets MARCUS THE ABUSIVE ASSHAT LIVE. Oh, and of course Peter the LET ME KILL ALL THE PEOPLE is allowed to forget how much of an asshole he is. He can forget that he sexually assaulted Tris, almost killed her, stabbed Edward in the eye, worked with Erudite, and again WILLING TO KILL ANYONE. Isn’t that just all nice and cosy. So Tris dies and the two people who deserved to die the most live. Sure, seems fitting.

        Divergent… Divergent was my world. Tris was the character that saved me. It hurts that I will never be able to read these book again, won’t be able to watch the movie without thinking about this book. I give VR credit because she really didn’t care what people will think. It was her book and she won’t change a thing. But at the same time I hate it. She gave us two whole books with Tris’ POV. VR gave us all of Tris’ thoughts and feelings, everything she wanted… She gave us 6. It hurts because the book that brought me hope, the character that gave me strength, are both dead. I just have to hope authors don’t start rolling VR’s lead and start killing their main characters.

         What are your thoughts?

~ Lauren

 

Allegiant by Veronica Roth

            Today is the day Allegiant comes out. The book that started by obsession with the number 4, the word Dauntless, and just Theo James (please dear god those abs must be illegal somewhere). I first read Divergent my sophomore year of high school. For a month. Constantly. I actually had to make an agreement with my dad that I couldn’t speak about it anymore.

            That didn’t stop me. 

            I guess I wanted to say thank you to Veronica Roth even though she will never find this. Thank you for writing one of the best series in young adult, thank you for not using a love triangle. Veronica Roth is the reason why my need to be a writer became stronger. If you haven’t read Divergent, please do. These books make you think about life and how yeah, we’re faced with tragedy, but we can move on. 

            Unless Allegiant ends with major feels that will make me cry. Then there is no escaping tragedy. I love Divergent and I’m so happy to be able to meet Veronica Roth today. Fourtris will live on. It has to. Thanks for stopping by and reading this silly post. 

~Lauren